Friend Friday: I am a voyager and self love is my destination.

by byanika on 18/02/2011 · 65 comments

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Hi Sweethearts!

This weeks Friend Friday questions speak to the heart of my blog: The voyage towards loving our selves.

Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed?

Yes! My image of my self - both in terms of my self image and my body image- has changed, for the better. I had come  far enough in terms of accepting and loving my self inside and out that I dared start my blog. That is one of the best choices I have made in my life, and I have you to thank for it sweethearts. Your feedback, kindness and interest encourages me to continue on my voyage towards being me. It is a very moving thing to me.

Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself?  

Absolutely. I have spent most of my life feeling deeply ashamed of my self and my body.  The only part of my self that I could look at without feeling sick was my hair. I was subjected to abuse growing up, and I was bullied tremendously by peers as well. I was lonely until my late teens, not daring to connect with others, not daring to show them who I was, not wanting to impose on them.

If you are self-concious, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway?                      

Um, no. I go out of my way to face it head on! I want to bring light where there is dark, peace where there is shame, spunk where there is no hope. I show you my designs, I post pictures that are less then perfect, I am honest. I am not perfect, but I am the best me I can be. I challenge my self every day, both for my self and also to show anyone looking that it can be done. You can reclaim and redefine your self. In fact is yours to do, and yours alone.

I am a self worth activist, I am fierce about it, and I am here to stay!

Thankfully I have a mother and husbond who have fought fiercely for me, and I always had a voice in my heart whispering that what I was being told about my self was false, that the truth really was that even I am lovable. At 32 I finally know this to be true, all though I move through the pain of my old wounds each and every day.

Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image?         

Nude swimming!

 

Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision?        

I do show you pictures of my self and my fashion. Why? Because I have nothing to hide. And because I think that I am rather fashionable. HA! Sometimes I feel very shy having my picture taken, but to be honest, I love it. It is fun, now that I can stand to look at them, and when I stop worrying and really get into it I feel sexy. Meeeuuuaaaw!

What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?                                                           

You are not alone. You can get to a place of self love. Dare to change your truth about your self. You are more than your body. And, you are loved.

The Friend Friday project by Modly Chic is a way for fashion bloggers to share more about themselves and create a friendly connection with other bloggers. Join the conversation by joining the Fashion Beauty Friend Friday Google Group.

If you would like to join this wonderful network but feel unsure of how it works be sure to check out the eminent post on just how to do the Friend Friday by the gloriously talented and savvy Grit and Glamour!

 

Ps. I would love for you to connect with me on Facebook/By Anika <3

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AnikaByAnika 1 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 18, 2011 at 8:24 pm

[New Post] Friend Friday: I am a voyager and self love is my destination. – via #twitoaster http://byanika.com/2011/02/18/friend-fri

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2 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar February 18, 2011 at 9:28 pm

I love a strong woman with wings in her soul like you my dear Anika.
Mil besos.
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byanika 3 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:27 pm

That makes two of us darling friend. Gracias. You are simply wonderful, and you have a place in my heart. xxxxxxxxxxx besos!

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4 MegNo Gravatar February 18, 2011 at 9:34 pm

Beautiful post<3 I always love reading these Friend Friday posts, the questions are always so good. I admire you so much, I wish I was brave enough to put myself out there more but I'm pretty shy and extremely conscious of my body! One day I will hopefully be more like you! :-)
Funnily enough I did post a little more about myself on my blog today but it wasn't to do with this friend friday :P
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byanika 5 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:26 pm

Thank you so much my dear. One step at a time, in your own time. You`ll get there, darling. I find you so beautiful, inside and out. Am exited to see your post! I love when you share. Sending you warm hugs!

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6 GRIT & GLAMOURNo Gravatar
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February 18, 2011 at 10:10 pm

LOOK AT YOU, darling! OMG!

I can’t believe you are rocking Thesis on wp.org so easily and quickly! I am so, so, so proud of you. And of course, you are the ambassador for this topic. Nude swimming?! I. LOVE. IT!

Thanks for the mention, lovely. xoxo

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byanika 7 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:23 pm

Thank you Vahni, I really appreciate your support and warmth!As for the swimming: Bombs away! <3 kisses from me to you.

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8 KirstinNo Gravatar February 18, 2011 at 10:41 pm

So wonderful to hear abot your struggles and your strength. Thanks for being so honest with us, I love getting to know you!

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byanika 9 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Thank you darling Kirstin! The feeling is mutual, in fact, I wish we could have coffee and enjoy each others company! <3

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10 Alina A.No Gravatar February 18, 2011 at 11:07 pm

lovely interview. Very sincere.xx

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byanika 11 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Thank you Alina!

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12 LaCaraNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 12:25 am

As fiery as your hair, you are such a bright soul! You’re beautiful inside & out! I love how honest and passionate you are my darling! This is awesome, I think I’m going to try Friend Friday! Sending you lot’s of love!! :D

<3

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byanika 13 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Thank you my darling! Yes, do join the Friend Friday! I would love that! Kisses and hugs to you my dear. <3

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14 VeshoeviusNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 12:36 am

Very moving answers! You are obviously a very strong woman to have moved on from the abuse you’ve suffered in the past to a much better and peaceful place. How wonderful that blogging has been a force for good for your body image. Nude swimming sounds like a great idea!
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byanika 15 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:04 pm

Thank you sweetheart. I really appreciate your words. <3 Anika

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16 SawsanNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 1:13 am

Since I began to blog, my image of myself has changed a lot.
Like you, I was ashamed of my body. Ashamed to go out with my husband and ashamed that my son has a mom like me.
Today is totally different. I’m feeling good and beautiful, and it is thanks to my blog and my readers.

Anika Chérie, thank you for sharing this sincerity with us.
bisou

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byanika 17 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Sawsan, ma cherie, merci. Thank you for sharing. I can`t tell you how glad I am that you now love your self. You are so wonderful, and your family is blessed to have you in their lives, as I am. <3 bisous!

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18 BBMNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 1:36 am

have i told you that i have a girl crush on you? well i do. id ask you out but ure too far, lol. you look romantic, sweet, and lovely as always anika! xoxo!

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byanika 19 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:03 pm

Sweets, I so want to date you! We`ll be Juliet and Juliet, tragically parted by a great sea! <3 :D

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20 vanessaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 3:43 am

You inspire me to be a better person. It’s okay to be proud of who we are, and put ourselves out there.
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byanika 21 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:03 pm

That alone makes this whole blogging venture worth while for me. Thank you so much for sharing darling Vanessa. You are wonderful, just the way you are! xx Anika

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22 Casee MarieNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 4:15 am

Wonderful answers, gorgeous! I love Friend Friday. These questions were so deep and your answers were a delight to read. (:

P.S. Your new theme looks so pretty! Loving what you did with the sidebar!

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byanika 23 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:19 pm

Thank you so much, lovely! It is a great series, I am so glad Katy Rose started this! Thanks again for your help with my new theme :) <3

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24 JenNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 6:00 pm

Love this post Anika, you are such an inspiration! <3 Keep on going, you're amazing.
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byanika 25 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 7:19 pm

Tusen takk kjære Jen! Tenkte på deg i dag og lurte på hvordan du har det :) kramar! <3

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byanika 26 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 19, 2011 at 6:51 pm

Thank you all my darling friends. I <3 you.

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AnikaByAnika 27 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 11:08 pm

RT @anikabyanika Friend Friday: I am a voyager and self love is my destination. http://byanika.com/2011/02/18/friend-fri… #FTFCommunity

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citizenrosebudz 28 citizenrosebudzNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 11:30 pm

RT @AnikaByAnika: RT @anikabyanika Friend Friday: I am a voyager and self love is my destination. http://byanika.com/2011/02/18/friend-fri… #FTFCommunity

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citizenrosebudz 29 citizenrosebudzNo Gravatar February 19, 2011 at 11:31 pm

@AnikaByAnika I read “I am a voyeur” which is entirely a whole other ball of wax. ; P

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AnikaByAnika 30 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 7:53 am

RT @citizenrosebudz: @AnikaByAnika I read “I am a voyeur” which is entirely a whole other ball of wax. ; PThat it is,you do know me well lol

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AnikaByAnika 31 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 7:55 am

@citizenrosebudz thank you so much for your comment, Bella, it means so much to me. Yes, I took your feedback seriously,and bought Thesis.<3

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citizenrosebudz 32 citizenrosebudzNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 8:11 am

@AnikaByAnika well then you are welcome! you and your blog deserve to look that good! The blog looks GREAT and it is easier to navigate. xo.

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AnikaByAnika 33 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 8:42 am

@citizenrosebudz well, I guess a functional sidebar really helps lol. Thanks again for your honesty and friendship. Are you up very early?

34 JoyNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 12:54 am

Such an inspirational post! I absolutely adore seeing your outfits and reading your blog — it gives me the courage to break out of my shell a little bit. Happiness and positivity is contagious. Thank you.
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byanika 35 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 11:21 pm

Thank you so much for your kind and moving words darling Joy. Feedback like yours touches me so. Thank you for that. <3

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36 THE-LOUDMOUTHNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 4:15 am

You are FIERCE, darling! This entry nearly brought me to tears. You’re an inspiration!

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byanika 37 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 11:17 pm

As are you darling Steph! Thank you so much. Sending you big hugs xx

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38 Bella QNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 5:19 am

Your post really moved me. I agree with Steph aka the Loudmouth, I was both moved almost to tears and also I felt my heart swell. I swear Steven Speilburg-like soundtrack played in the background. You are so strong, and forthright and inspiring dear friend. I love that you put yourself out there. THAT you put yourself out there. The answers are so poignant and touching because they are real, and you are real. You show by example how to self-love, and love others.

Speaking of which, have you put in your new template? The blog looks cleaner, and loaded super fast. So kudos to you for doing what it takes, and getting it done! xo. -Bella Q
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byanika 39 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 20, 2011 at 11:17 pm

Thank you so much my friend. Now I am moved, again, to be honest this was a difficult post to write, and I had to stop for a moment there as the feelings overpowered me. Thank you for not leaving me hanging out there. <3

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40 KateNo Gravatar February 21, 2011 at 8:11 pm

I found you honest and beautiful. such rare qualities in today’s world.

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byanika 41 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 23, 2011 at 1:10 pm

Thank you so much, I am moved by your words. xx

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42 AnnNo Gravatar February 24, 2011 at 6:31 pm

Hi, so happy to include this awesome post in my last edit of Links a la Mode for IFB. And just followed you!

Keep in touch! xo ann

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byanika 43 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 26, 2011 at 7:37 pm

Thank you so much again sweet Ann, it really means a lot to me! I love your blog, was just round yours :) xx

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44 Bella QNo Gravatar
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February 24, 2011 at 8:27 pm

Anika, a BIG congrats on making it yet again on the invaluable IFB’s Links Ala Mode. Not only is it recognition for a post well-written, it is an amazing venue for your message to reach many people who will be inspired by your cool clear vision and powerful intent. Kudos, dear friend!

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byanika 45 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 26, 2011 at 7:36 pm

Thank you so much Bella, and the same to you! I love that you are putting your powers to such good use. You are a visionary, and I love you! xx

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46 herCatwalkNo Gravatar February 25, 2011 at 5:48 pm

I love it! “I am a self worth activist.” Well said!
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byanika 47 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 26, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Thank you dear! xx

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48 LoveBrownSugarNo Gravatar February 26, 2011 at 1:42 am

Love this post! I think I love even more that you’re a curvy girl representing and NOT afraid to flaunt it. Keep doing what you do! People are watching ;)

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byanika 49 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 26, 2011 at 7:28 pm

Thank you hon! Yup, I am all curves, and happy about it lol xx

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50 Collette OsunaNo Gravatar February 26, 2011 at 3:19 pm

Hello dollie….Im stopping over because I finally had a few minuted to post:)
I loved your story, its alot like mine ..soooo happy that you are who you are, and that I have been chosen in the same link week as you..lets rock together woman!!!! Mwah!!!
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byanika 51 byanikaNo Gravatar
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February 26, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Thank you so much for stopping by sweets! I completely agree, let`s take it to the next level- together! Big kiss for you!

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52 annebethNo Gravatar February 26, 2011 at 9:36 pm

I have that H&M leopard dress :) I wear it hiked up too, much more versatile. Great styling!
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53 Sally ThompsonNo Gravatar September 20, 2011 at 1:33 pm

I love the combination of your outfit.. Keep up the good work!
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citizenrosebudz 54 citizenrosebudzNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 8:59 am

@AnikaByAnika It’s 1 am in the morning. I should be heading off to bed. Watching Bill Mahr on DVD. He’s crazy funny.

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AnikaByAnika 55 AnikaByAnikaNo Gravatar February 20, 2011 at 9:22 am

@citizenrosebudz yes he is! one of my faves! It is early morning here :) Sleep tight hon.

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