This weeks Friend Friday questions speak to the heart of my blog: The voyage towards loving our selves.
Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed?
Yes! My image of my self – both in terms of my self image and my body image- has changed, for the better. I had come far enough in terms of accepting and loving my self inside and out that I dared start my blog. That is one of the best choices I have made in my life, and I have you to thank for it sweethearts. Your feedback, kindness and interest encourages me to continue on my voyage towards being me. It is a very moving thing to me.
Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself?
Absolutely. I have spent most of my life feeling deeply ashamed of my self and my body. The only part of my self that I could look at without feeling sick was my hair. I was subjected to abuse growing up, and I was bullied tremendously by peers as well. I was lonely until my late teens, not daring to connect with others, not daring to show them who I was, not wanting to impose on them.
If you are self-concious, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway?
Um, no. I go out of my way to face it head on! I want to bring light where there is dark, peace where there is shame, spunk where there is no hope. I show you my designs, I post pictures that are less then perfect, I am honest. I am not perfect, but I am the best me I can be. I challenge my self every day, both for my self and also to show anyone looking that it can be done. You can reclaim and redefine your self. In fact is yours to do, and yours alone.
I am a self worth activist, I am fierce about it, and I am here to stay!
Thankfully I have a mother and husbond who have fought fiercely for me, and I always had a voice in my heart whispering that what I was being told about my self was false, that the truth really was that even I am lovable. At 32 I finally know this to be true, all though I move through the pain of my old wounds each and every day.
Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image?
Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision?
I do show you pictures of my self and my fashion. Why? Because I have nothing to hide. And because I think that I am rather fashionable. HA! Sometimes I feel very shy having my picture taken, but to be honest, I love it. It is fun, now that I can stand to look at them, and when I stop worrying and really get into it I feel sexy. Meeeuuuaaaw!
What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?
You are not alone. You can get to a place of self love. Dare to change your truth about your self. You are more than your body. And, you are loved.
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