Friend Friday: Giving thanks

by byanika on 15/04/2011 · 20 comments

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Hi Sweethearts!

Today is the first anniversary of the Friend Friday Group.  One year ago the wonderful and talented Katy  of Modly Chic started this group with a handfull of bloggers, and today over 600 bloggers are a part of the group. That is the power of a community for you. Thank you so much Katy, and my heartfelt congratulations to you!

This week the topic is gratitude. As Katy puts it: “We each have so many people in our lives and in the blogging community who have helped us along the way. It’s time to shine the spotlight on them and give credit where credit
is due. “

When it comes to me personally – I owe a lot of who I am to:

My mother and my husbond.

I am blessed with a loving family and wonderful friends, who enrich my life and support me, but my mum and Alex are the ones who have given everything to help me, who have fought to help me survive and really live. I love them so much it hurts, and give thanks that they are in my life each and every day.

When it comes to me professionally – I owe a lot of who I am to:

The teenagers I work with. They are a blessing and joy, when they challenge me to be a better and even more loving adult presence in their lives, when they very kindly ignore that I cheat at basketball during breaks with them, when they come into my office and let me hold their hand. They are why I do what I do.

When it comes to the art of blogging, I’m grateful to these people for helping me through some rough spots:

YOU! You, my darling readers. I am so grateful that you take the time to read my blog and that you share with me from your lives. I enjoy our conversations so.

I am also extremely grateful to so many of my fellow bloggers, for your feedback, your support, your love. You know who you are, because I tell you that I love and appreciate you every chance I get.


One blogging challenge I’m grateful happened because it made me stronger was…

…the commotion in parts of the plus size bloggersphere last summer concerning who qualifies as a “real” woman and not. I was very disheartened by the exlution of women who were not curvy and thus did not qualify as “real”. After a few days of thinking about how to deal with this issue I took a deep breath and wrote a long post that I now refer to as my manifesto on our own right to label our selves and our worth.

 I was nervous writing the post, aware that I might alienate some, that I might loose readers, but I knew that I needed to be true to my self and my beliefs. There was no way I could stand by and not dare to speak up. You know me, I believe in translating my intention into action, so I got busy with spreading som serious love into the bloggersphere, running an ongoing series where I feature lovely bloggers, based on the idea that they blog, so they will be featured. I am very proud of my series, and happy to report that so far nearly 70 bloggers have taken part.

I feel that this whole episode has made me stronger as a blogger, more focused. After I posted my manifesto I began calling it as it is.  I am a self worth activist. There you go.

To my readers, I’d like to say…

… each and every one of you are special. There is no one in the whole world who is just like you. Isn`t that wonderful?

I love you.


The Friend Friday project by Modly Chic is a way for fashion bloggers to share more about themselves and create a friendly connection with other bloggers. Join the conversation by joining the Fashion Beauty Friend Friday Google Group.

If you would like to join this wonderful network but feel unsure of how it works be sure to check out the eminent post on just how to do the Friend Friday by the gloriously talented and savvy Grit and Glamour!


Ps: The outfit. I couldn`t help my self, I had to rework my nude dress. So the dress is ByAnika. Scarf, H&M. Earrings worn as neckless and neckless worn as bangle, H&M.

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April 15, 2011 at 1:53 am



2 OfeliaNo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 4:43 am

You have a lot of love and kindness in your heart and that’s why I love reading about your life and you points of view. I also admire your feminine and creative style of dressing.
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3 lauraNo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 5:11 am

Beautiful responses! And I love that scarf you’re wearing!


4 RocquelleNo Gravatar
April 15, 2011 at 6:19 am

Lovely answers! Your kind spirit shines through!


5 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 9:00 am

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I am so touched!!!
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6 MadisonNo Gravatar
April 15, 2011 at 9:34 am

I’m all about the gratitude, like I said last week, it’s really important for a good life.
I agree with Ofelia! You indeed have a kind heart. Your generous soul touches so many… If you loose readers, then they weren’t dedicated anyway… with your heart of gold you will gain an army. Keep doing what you are doing my dear! Your voice & passion shows… and I LOVE it! -xxoo
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7 Monique ZumanNo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 2:40 pm

Your shoes today are very cute!! And I love that scarf! Almost scarf weather here!

Monique xx
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8 Absolutely Mrs. KNo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 3:03 pm

wow another smashing dress. i love the two colors, and the fabric looks so delicate. the blue looks perfect with your hair color. again, the necklace is simple divine, it gives it like a bohemian touch. although the colors of the scarf and totally different, it works really well. love the print
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9 MyFavouriteThingsNo Gravatar April 15, 2011 at 3:10 pm

Hei Anika, for noen flotte svar! I likhet med deg har jeg også nevnt mannen min i pkt 1:) Veldig interessant å lese om din største bloggutfordring, jeg skal lese det innlegget så snart jeg får tid! Du er et flott forbilde, og jeg er veldig glad for at jeg oppdaget bloggen din. Ha en flott fredag! Klem!
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10 Kirstin MarieNo Gravatar
April 15, 2011 at 3:11 pm

Aww, and I <3 you, sweet heart!! Happy Friday, and thank you for being amazing, I always enjoy reading your blog. :)
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11 anneNo Gravatar
April 15, 2011 at 4:21 pm

thank YOU for your posts
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12 myheartbloggedNo Gravatar
April 16, 2011 at 1:26 am

You are so positive. I love reading your blog. I never understood the whole “real” women debate. We are all women, we are all real, no matter what size or shape we are.
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13 Casee MarieNo Gravatar April 16, 2011 at 6:16 am

This was lovely, dear, and I’m so proud of you for standing up for what you believe in, even if it meant losing readers. I went through a similar thing, though not really on one topic specifically, and for me it was just that I wanted to please everyone! But once in a while I’ll stop by a blog and notice that they’ve removed me from their blogroll, and that little voice in my head pops up, asking what I did that made them lose interest in my voice. But it happens, and I think it’s progress in a way. It helps us form our own little community of readers who really appreciate what we have to say.

And also, I’m loving this reworked dress! I love how you have the earrings on a necklace and such; you look at things with such a creative eye! I love it. (:
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14 Bella QNo Gravatar
April 16, 2011 at 7:04 am

oh girlfriend, we love you too!
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15 sweetNo Gravatar April 16, 2011 at 2:43 pm

congratulations to everyone who was featured and wrote for friend friday…I am so happy that I was able to know everyone here…and you deserve all the love anika dearest!




16 Bree @ The Blog StylistNo Gravatar April 17, 2011 at 3:04 am

Such a beautiful topic – always great to be grateful xx


17 JamillahNo Gravatar
April 17, 2011 at 3:18 am

Oh Anika. You are a sweet one and one beautiful woman. Thank YOU for being so so bold and transparent. As a blogger who doesn’t reveal so much of myself on the blog, I really appreciate the way you really put yourself out there. So so great. I love reading you :) Keep it up and don’t ever change!


18 The Merry TravellerNo Gravatar April 18, 2011 at 4:32 pm

I love the detail of this new (?) dress! The bodice has pleats which are one of my favourites this season! I love you too Anika!
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19 Heather FonsecaNo Gravatar
April 18, 2011 at 5:47 pm

What a great post! Now I have to go read your manifesto.

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