Spreading the love: Ambu of Ambuji

by byanika on 22/05/2011 · 38 comments

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Hi sweethearts!

Last summer I started my Spreading the love-series where I feature lovely bloggers of all sizes. I started this series as a response to some of the drama going on in the blogosphere about what women are real and not. It was important to me to actively do something, to be clear on where I stand in my life, on and off line. I welcome all people in my life and in my blog. All I ask that we be respectful of each other.

I am a self worth activist, supportive of everyones right to define their own worth and use what ever labels on them selves they choose, be that fat, curvy or straight sized, homosexual, heterosexual or transgendered. It is not the label I am interested in, my focus is the person. I have chosen to ask everyone I feature the same questions, regardless of their amount of followers and size, something that has caused some controversy, but that is ok. I welcome dialouge, that is what expands our horizons, love and understanding of each other. You can read my manifesto on self worth here: “Who gets to label my self worth? I do!” 

This week it is my absolute pleasure to spread the love for the fantastic Ambu of Ambuji. I adore Ambu. I love her style, her integrity, her perspective and her unapologetic fashion sense. Thank you Ambu for being such an inspiration!

 

Could you share with us your thoughts on fashion vs fatshion?

Size is redundant in fashion. It means nothing, zero, zilch! Fashion and fatshion are the same, they are interchangeable. The problem is our society and various forms of media such as television, fashion magazines and movies have conditioned us into believing that only minus zero models can be fashionable. We have literally been brainwashed and indoctrinated into the theory of “thin is beautiful.” It is a fallacy!

Fashion is personal style, grace, expression, creativity, demeanor and etiquette. Fashion is part of who you are and the image you like and want to project as an individual. It is unique to each being. Based on such logic, how does it matter whether you are thin or fat? A skinny girl with no sense of style, grace or individualism has nothing to offer as opposed to a “fat” girl who is daring, has style and is fashionable in the true sense of the word.

What is your philosophy with regard to fashion?

My mantra for fashion has always been non-conformity. Discard the generic and be bold and daring. Most people follow the safe path, whether in life or fashion. The ones that stand out, shine and excel are the risk-takers. Don’t worry about public approval as 99% of people follow the well-trodden, safe and dull path. If you want to be ahead of the pack, a leader, a pioneer, break rules and take risks.

I would love for you to share some of your fave looks.

My style is the same as my philosophy. Shun conformity and embrace non-conformity. I am short but never wear heels—why should I when I have the world’s coolest flats and loafers and “I” feel good in them. I am busty, but wear loose clothes—why not, they are stylish, comfortable and hip! I am Indian but have super short hair—why not, I think I look cute in it! My life, My style, My prerogative as I am a unique individual.

How does blogging impact your life?

Well, honestly it is hard work, ha ha!!! But despite that it is an exploratory journey for me. I have discovered things about myself that I never really knew I had. For example, I feel the more I write, the more it comes from my heart and the less I try to impress an “audience.” Also, deep down I am a very shy person. As an only child, I spent most of my childhood reading and living in my imaginary world. Hence, my social skills have not been finely honed, refined and developed (although being a lawyer, I have made a concerted effort to overcome my shyness). Therefore, I express myself better with words than speech. Of course, when I get opportunities like the one I am getting now to write on dear Anika’s blog, it is simply buttery cream on the cake and validates my belief to continue.

Do you have a message for all the fashionloving ladies/gentlemen out there, whatever their size?

My message to all you fashion lovers whether tall, short, thin, fat, long-haired, short-haired or bald is to be BOLD!! Don’t have a set ideal of “beauty” dictated by society. If you do, you are only following rules that millions of others are following as well. Where does that get you? Nowhere, except as part of a pack, a herd, unnoticeable and at the bottom of the rung. Break rules and you will shine!

Thank you so much Ambu!

Would you like to contact me? I would love to connect with you!

anikack@gmail.com   @AnikaByAnika   Facebook

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1 AmbujiNo Gravatar May 22, 2011 at 9:06 pm

Only a person so beautiful inside out like you Anika sees the the beauty in all!!!! Thank you so much Anika!
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byanika 2 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:27 pm

Thank YOU Ambu, for being so lovely. Hugs! xx

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3 TerriNo Gravatar May 22, 2011 at 9:11 pm

What an interesting person! Thank you for this interview and the link to her blog.
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byanika 4 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:27 pm

Hi Terri, I am so glad you enjoyed this post! xx

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5 AlbertNo Gravatar May 22, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Anika, I love your message about living live authentically and “learning to let go of the need to be what ever others need me to be” (from your manifesto). It’s a very powerful philosophy of life and fashion. Great post, and thanks for Spreading the Love! (Ambuji’s friend)

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byanika 6 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:31 pm

Hi Albert, thank you so much! I loved hearing from you, and I take your kind words to heart. Are you a blogger too? I couldn`t find a link for you? All the best, Anika xx

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7 MadisonNo Gravatar
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May 22, 2011 at 10:04 pm

Love Ambu! Definitely a unique lady… She has great humour, she’s clever & her blog is amazing! I remember when I first came across it, I loved it immediately! She has a way of conveying fashion, experiences and culture intellectually within her posts, which will always have you thinking after each read. Wonderful feature Anika dear! xxoo

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byanika 8 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:28 pm

I know, isn`t she wonderful?! I completely agree with you. Thank you for sharing the love xx

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9 TanviNo Gravatar May 22, 2011 at 10:19 pm

What a great interview. Love Ambuji and her style.

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byanika 10 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:29 pm

Hi sweet Tanvi, I am so glad you know her already and love her like I do. Hugs! xx

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11 PheobeNo Gravatar May 22, 2011 at 11:56 pm

I love reading this series of yours! This truly shows others that fashion blogging is so much more authentic with real women. Thanks for spreading the world and for always keeping it real :) You’re truly an inspiration to us all.

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byanika 12 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:29 pm

Hi Pheobe, thank you so much for your feedback! I take it to heart, truly. I am sending you lots of hugs xx

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13 OfeliaNo Gravatar May 23, 2011 at 1:55 am

Ambu is one of my all times favorite stylish blogger that you had highlighted!
I agree with Ambu that you write out of your heart and not to please others.
Anika, thanks for introducing Ambu to us; she is a real stylish and strong women.
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byanika 14 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:30 pm

Hi my sweet friend, I am so glad you enjoyed this post. Ambu sure is stylish and strong, just like you my dear. Hugs! xx

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15 Best Of Palm BeachNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 4:40 am

Love this, look forward to meeting/learning about other bloggers. I also consider myself a self worth activist, took me so long to get it and keep it.

xo
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byanika 16 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:33 pm

Hi Veronica, I am so happy to meet a fellow activist! Hugs to you my dear xx

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17 Lee OliveiraNo Gravatar May 23, 2011 at 1:26 pm

YAY… my great friend Ambu. I had the pleasure to meet her in San Francisco and New York.
I love her fashion style and her perceptive fashion side of it too.
I am glad that I get to call her my friend
Lee x
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byanika 18 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 1:34 pm

Hi sweet Lee, how lovely that you have met in person! I think it was via a tweet Vahni sent you and Ambu after NY that I found her blog. One day I hope to meet you both! Hugs xx

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19 GRIT & GLAMOURNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 5:12 pm

LOVE Ambuji…got to meet her in NY. So, so kind. And wise. I really admire her self-confidence and commitment to her own individuality!
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byanika 20 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 8:16 pm

I found Ambus blog via one of your tweets Vahni, after you all were in NY, so thank you for introducing me to her! I love her for the same reasons you list here. I can imagine you had a good time together!

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21 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar May 23, 2011 at 6:13 pm

Thank you, my dear Anika for introducing Ambu to me. I had a good look at her blog and loved it.
You are an angel.
Love you!!

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byanika 22 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 6:26 pm

I know you would love her my friend. I am so glad I could introduce you two! Love you beautiful!!! xxxxxx

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23 JamillahNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 8:05 pm

OMIGOSH!!! Woah!!! Her blog looks right up my alley and I love her short hair and style and her voice here; thank you Anika for the introduction!!! You are the best.

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byanika 24 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 23, 2011 at 8:18 pm

Yay! Oh I am so glad darling! She is fab, and so my dear, are you! Lots of love coming your way xxx

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25 Laura ConnellNo Gravatar May 24, 2011 at 4:45 am

That lady is so super-cool both in her sense of style and her outlook on fashion. Be BOLD: I agree.
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byanika 26 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 27, 2011 at 6:06 pm

YES, let`s be BOLD! Love it. Thank you for your comment lovely!

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27 KenyettaNo Gravatar May 24, 2011 at 5:58 am

love her attitude and style!
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byanika 28 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 28, 2011 at 5:14 pm

Me too! Hugs xx

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29 THE-LOUDMOUTHNo Gravatar
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May 25, 2011 at 3:03 am

She is straight-up fabulous!
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30 Kirstin MarieNo Gravatar
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May 25, 2011 at 2:52 pm

Wow, she is such a beautiful person inside & out! Thank you so much for introducing her to me. I really enjoyed reading this post!

xo
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byanika 31 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 28, 2011 at 5:16 pm

Hi love, I am so glad you enjoyed her post, she is a wonderful person and blogger. Like you! Hugs xx

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32 jessicaNo Gravatar May 25, 2011 at 3:09 pm

wow, she is amazing, such style and what an inspiration. I just love her attitude towards fashion and life! Thanks Anika for sharing her with us!:)
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byanika 33 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 28, 2011 at 5:17 pm

It is my pleasure dear Jessica, I am so glad you enjoyed the interview. Happy weekend to you!

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34 MiraNo Gravatar May 26, 2011 at 10:33 am

So great interview! She’s pretty damn cool!

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byanika 35 byanikaNo Gravatar
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May 28, 2011 at 5:18 pm

Yes she is! Thank you for commenting hon!

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