Last summer I started my Spreading the love-series where I feature lovely bloggers of all sizes. I started this series as a response to some of the drama going on in the blogosphere about what women are real and not. It was important to me to actively do something, to be clear on where I stand in my life, on and off line. I welcome all people in my life and in my blog. All I ask that we be respectful of each other.
I am a self worth activist, supportive of everyones right to define their own worth and use what ever labels on them selves they choose, be that fat, curvy or straight sized, homosexual, heterosexual or transgendered. It is not the label I am interested in, my focus is the person. I have chosen to ask everyone I feature the same questions, regardless of their amount of followers and size, something that has caused some controversy, but that is ok. I welcome dialouge, that is what expands our horizons, love and understanding of each other. You can read my manifesto on self worth here: “Who gets to label my self worth? I do!”
This week it is my absolute pleasure to spread the love for the fantastic Ambu of Ambuji. I adore Ambu. I love her style, her integrity, her perspective and her unapologetic fashion sense. Thank you Ambu for being such an inspiration!
Could you share with us your thoughts on fashion vs fatshion?
Size is redundant in fashion. It means nothing, zero, zilch! Fashion and fatshion are the same, they are interchangeable. The problem is our society and various forms of media such as television, fashion magazines and movies have conditioned us into believing that only minus zero models can be fashionable. We have literally been brainwashed and indoctrinated into the theory of “thin is beautiful.” It is a fallacy!
Fashion is personal style, grace, expression, creativity, demeanor and etiquette. Fashion is part of who you are and the image you like and want to project as an individual. It is unique to each being. Based on such logic, how does it matter whether you are thin or fat? A skinny girl with no sense of style, grace or individualism has nothing to offer as opposed to a “fat” girl who is daring, has style and is fashionable in the true sense of the word.
What is your philosophy with regard to fashion?
My mantra for fashion has always been non-conformity. Discard the generic and be bold and daring. Most people follow the safe path, whether in life or fashion. The ones that stand out, shine and excel are the risk-takers. Don’t worry about public approval as 99% of people follow the well-trodden, safe and dull path. If you want to be ahead of the pack, a leader, a pioneer, break rules and take risks.
I would love for you to share some of your fave looks.
My style is the same as my philosophy. Shun conformity and embrace non-conformity. I am short but never wear heels—why should I when I have the world’s coolest flats and loafers and “I” feel good in them. I am busty, but wear loose clothes—why not, they are stylish, comfortable and hip! I am Indian but have super short hair—why not, I think I look cute in it! My life, My style, My prerogative as I am a unique individual.
How does blogging impact your life?
Well, honestly it is hard work, ha ha!!! But despite that it is an exploratory journey for me. I have discovered things about myself that I never really knew I had. For example, I feel the more I write, the more it comes from my heart and the less I try to impress an “audience.” Also, deep down I am a very shy person. As an only child, I spent most of my childhood reading and living in my imaginary world. Hence, my social skills have not been finely honed, refined and developed (although being a lawyer, I have made a concerted effort to overcome my shyness). Therefore, I express myself better with words than speech. Of course, when I get opportunities like the one I am getting now to write on dear Anika’s blog, it is simply buttery cream on the cake and validates my belief to continue.
Do you have a message for all the fashionloving ladies/gentlemen out there, whatever their size?
My message to all you fashion lovers whether tall, short, thin, fat, long-haired, short-haired or bald is to be BOLD!! Don’t have a set ideal of “beauty” dictated by society. If you do, you are only following rules that millions of others are following as well. Where does that get you? Nowhere, except as part of a pack, a herd, unnoticeable and at the bottom of the rung. Break rules and you will shine!
Would you like to contact me? I would love to connect with you!