A humble note on manifesting love and gratitude

by byanika on 15/06/2011 · 39 comments

in By Anika,self worth,spreading the love

Hi Sweethearts.

Do you know the definition of gratitude? I looked it up:

Gratitude; thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive.

You know, I belive and live by the notion that my intention and truth about my self is what I manifest in my life. Gratitude plays a huge part in my life. I feel grateful many times each day, because I choose to. Gratitude is not something I feel and focus on because it is easy, but because it makes walking through my hardships meaningful. I am always recentering my self, checking with my self that my intentions are good and that my inner dialouge about my self is an honest and healthy one.

As far as I am concerned gratitude and love are intertwined, I can not feel one with out feeling the other. I wrote you a love letter and you answered me with a love so massive that I am speachless. Vahni quoting me in the Links à La Mode and all of your kind comments blew me away. Each word, each tweet, each loving thought you send me, I feel them all. I feel you and I keep you in my heart.

At this moment I am the happiest in my self that I have ever been. I have survived abuse, I have reclaimed my self, I am not apologizing for existing any more, and I am surviving the heartbreak of letting go of the biggest love of my life. I am grateful for each moment, but I have realized that letting go also is a part of loving my self enough to not compromize on who I am.  Yesterday I shared this on Twitter and was blown away again by the outpouring of love you gave me. I dared to be voulnerable and ask for support, and you had my back. That moves me so.

I am spreading the love in my life and in the bloggersphere as fiercly as I can, this you know. What I did not expect was to have it reciprocated. You are sharing your personal experiences with me via e-mail and comments, you feature me, you pay attention to me. Sweet mother, you guys are a force to be reckoned with!

I have been given blog awards recently by Els and Rocquelle, and I am very grateful. I shan`t be passing them on to a few of you wonderful bloggers, I want to pass them on to all of you.

The awards ask that I share a few things about my self that you don`t already know. Ask me to share and I will.

I am a singer. I sing. What do I sing, you wonder? What else? Soul.

Up until two years ago I didn`t like leopard print.

When I set up my clothing company ByAnika I intend to sell blinged out walkers to go with the fab heels.

My hair went grey at 25. After having a complete melt down (growing up I thought my hair was the only beautiful thing about me), I found a hair colour that matched my own and got on with it.

I don`t drink alchohol, but people tend to think I am drunk at parties. The wild dancing and inappropriate jokes might have something to do with that.

I hug trees. I always keep it decent, though.

Today a man stopped me in the street and said he felt that I was very soulful, that I had lived a lot of heartbreak, but that now happiness was waiting for me. The lucky stone he gave me turned out to be a painted ball of wood, but I am choosing to take his words to heart anyway. Who cares if he was trying to get into my pants, I like feeling that good things are on their way.

Tell me sweethearts, what are you manifesting in your lives?


 I would love to connect with you!

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1 RoseNo Gravatar June 15, 2011 at 9:45 pm

This is so lovely, here is wishing you continued happiness


byanika 2 byanikaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 6:09 pm

Thank you so much Rose, wishing you the same, and lots of it! xo


3 GRIT & GLAMOURNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 9:52 pm

Sweetness, your posts are of the few I read word-for-word. They are always so insightful, so honest, so moving. I hope you know that we all feel the same stunning outpouring of love from you that you feel from us.

I don’t know what I am attempting to manifest in my life, but I know I’m really tired of being stabbed in the back by family, religion, many things. So I am focusing my attention on those who bring positivity to my life, on those who I see reflecting love in equal measure to others. You are definitely one of them.

There is a book in you, woman! Write, write, write!

P.S.: I CAN’T WAIT til NY!
P.P.S.: I have grey too. That’s why God invented hair color!
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byanika 4 byanikaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 6:12 pm

Vahni, your feedback means the world to me. Thank you!

Your manifestation powers are working my darling, you manifested and I appeared! I manifested and found you! I am sorry that you experience people letting you down, it has happened to me a lot as well, but I am all in for our strategy: Love each other and those like us, and screw the rest. How about them flying figs!

I love you. I`ll thank you in my first book.



5 MJNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 9:55 pm

I love your posts and your words always seem to hit home with me, especially now that I’m taking a path in life that is all about what I want for a change! :) With all the craziness in the world, we have to hold on to those that bring nothing but positivity and peace to one’s life so we are grateful for you and your words! :)
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byanika 6 byanikaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 6:13 pm

Sweetheart, how brave you are for chosing change! Hold on to your self, you can do this. I believe in you!!! Love, Anika


7 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar June 15, 2011 at 9:59 pm

I am back home, and when I opened I found your posts. wow Anika, you always manage to get to my heart.
Love u.
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byanika 8 byanikaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 6:14 pm

Oh Sacramento, my heart is already yours. I love you so. Besos!!


9 AdrienneNo Gravatar June 15, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Every time I read one of your posts I’m glad I stopped by. I can feel my heart smiling :)
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byanika 10 byanikaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 6:14 pm

Mine is smiling too, reading your words. Sending you lots of love!


11 BereNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 10:03 pm

Dearest Anika,
you should know by now that you have a MOUNTAIN of love behind you. You’ve helped so many of us with your uplifting, true and sincere posts, you’re always there for us, to support our projects and give us that extra kick of inspiration, how could you not receive a lot of love in return for that?
I know a thing or two about life’s trials and heartbreaks. One thing is for sure: this, too, shall pass. I’m so happy to read that you’re your strongest and fiercest right now (as should be!) and I’m sure that the low times will be over soon. Smile and think about us, I’ll smile and think about you too.
xoxoxoxo B. :) ))
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12 KatyNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 10:05 pm

Anika – Lovely post that is truly soulful, ,as the mad said. I’m so glad you have found friendship in this crazy blogging world. We are honestly a talented gift of individuals – put us together and there is a True Force to be reckoned with. We stand by our own. We support, encourage and love. Keep smiling – through the good times and bads. – Katy
PS I’m gray too. And I agree with Vahni – that’s why there is hair color.


13 MetsyNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 10:11 pm

As a new blogger, I’ve been observing and learning from the twitter role models out there… *cough* that would be you, @gritandglamour, @beautifullyinv and so many others. I discovered quickly that there is a community of amazing people to meet/share with. I started teaching myself blogging technologies in an effort to keep my geek skills up-to-date, but I ended up finding a whole new set of friends and mentors. Thank you my friend!
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14 Ellen WilbergNo Gravatar June 15, 2011 at 10:19 pm

I really admire your honesty, and that no matter what youre going through, it seems like you keep holding your head high and look forward. As we all should!
I am going through a really tough time in my life at the moment, but I am turning it into an opportunity to be creative, to create. Its the only thing thats holding me up. So I am grabbing a hold of that, and I never intend to let go!
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15 anitaNo Gravatar June 15, 2011 at 10:53 pm

I love coming here and reading what you have to say. You are so wise and it is so refreshing to have someone so kind and so aware of the world and herself! I always read every single word and ponder on it. You are an amazing person and I am glad you get recognition for that. you deserve it all!

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16 Lauren NicoleNo Gravatar
June 15, 2011 at 11:37 pm

You always make me smile to myself after your thoughtful posts. You make me feel so beautiful with your words Anika. I need to work on telling myself more positive things.. we always tend to be our worst critic. My top bloggers are now you, beautifully invisible, grit and glamour and the citizen rosebuds. You all care so much about how meaningful your posts are. You all embrace individuality. You all inspire me to not just be a better blogger, but a better person to myself and my loved ones. I never thought I would be so touched by women I’ve never met. Yet, you all seem to captivate this passion for giving back, it’s only contagious. And most importantly, no matter how popular you get (because you all have a huge readership,) you always remember us. Thank you for that.
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17 GRIT & GLAMOURNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 5:20 pm

Awwwwww! xoxo
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18 vanessaNo Gravatar
June 16, 2011 at 12:52 am

You are so positive love, and have such a beautiful way about you. It doesn’t surprise me that you have strangers stopping you to tell you how fabulous you are. The funny thing is I can’t imagine you not loving leopard print. It’s so you!
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June 16, 2011 at 1:04 am

WOW! I needed this today! What an amazing post, but I expect no less from you my dear. I have been going through stormy times at the moment & pressure of work balance with personal relationship/life, but reading this makes me feel so good. I know happier times are ahead, it really is all about ones heart. The real cares of a man/woman’s heart comes out of their mouth, and you show a true sense of spreading love, honestly, and community. I’ve learnt gratitude and giving – I feel it helps me most in my life and relationships. Sometimes it’s just good to sit back and be appreciative.

I’ve always felt you as a soulful woman with a heart of gold darling… truly my dear!
*I agree with V, about the book! -xxoo
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20 Any Second NowNo Gravatar
June 16, 2011 at 2:55 am

Anika, your beauty knows no bounds. You are very soulful. You have been through so much and you still have the ability to be positive and caring.

What I love the best is that you are all of the above, can wear leopard like a vixen and tell jokes like a swarthy sailor. We need to hang out!

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21 Best Of Palm BeachNo Gravatar
June 16, 2011 at 3:45 am

I am always so moved and touched by all of your posts…I feel so connected to you and I never met you. You are truly special and can’t wait to have an opportunity to meet you in person.

I agree with Vahni, there is a book in there…bring it forth!!

I heart you!
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22 AmbujiNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 4:18 am

Anika you move me with each word, each experience of your life and each courageous step you take. You are a deep and soulful person, but you know the best thing I like about you is that despite all the adversities in your life, you keep a great sense of humor and have the ability to laugh at yourself. That is proof of your child like innocence. Even though I have never met you, I feel a great love for you and you are an inspiration foe me. I have a tendency of becoming cynical and jaded due to my experiences, but after reading your blogs, I get inspired to bring a shift in my thinking xxoo
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23 ofeliaNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 6:29 am

Anika, as always love to see your smile and love to read your inspiring posts!
I do drink only one drink when I got out and my friends are always surprised as well that I can be silly, happy and a goof all thru out the party without any more alcohol. And I do hug trees as well!!
Have a lovely an stylish week,


24 TerriNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 7:18 am

You are receiving what you have sent out…love to you.
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25 Casee MarieNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 7:53 am

Dear, sweet, lovely, fierce Anika. I’m afraid I’ve been so disconnected of late that Twitter has been foreign to me (and I miss it – I miss our slightly inappropriate conversations and objectification of Serbian tennis players) so I don’t entirely know what’s amiss in your life. But what I do know is that you – fabulous, heartwarming you – deserve nothing but the absolute best. Really. You’re a revolution, Anika! I can say with certainty that I’ve never known anyone as dynamic as you. You touch my soul from all the way over there in beautiful Oslo and you make me smile and you make me feel your loving hugs. It’s your gift, and nature and the universe couldn’t possibly compensate for all the joy you bring into the lives of others. It’s never fair that people who cause so much unabashed happiness have to deal with unpleasant and troubling times in their lives. You deserve so much more and I wish I could somehow make that happen. I can’t, but I can try to send you as much love and support and joy as you’ve sent me. I hope you can feel it!


26 MyFavouriteThingsNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 9:30 am

Anika – å lese bloggen din er alltid et lyspunkt i hverdagen! Det er så viktig å huske på at man faktisk har utrolig mye å være takknemlig for, det er lett å glemme det bort i hverdagens rutiner. Takk for påminnelsen!
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27 jessicaNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 12:32 pm

Your posts are always so beautiful. What an amazing person/blogger/woman you are. I love your positive attitude Anika, it makes my heart smile. :)
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28 Laura ConnellNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 3:30 pm

Oh, Anika, this made me cry at the end! In a good way, of course. I believe that the people in this world destined for great purpose are the ones who overcome suffering. You’re one of those people. Daily gratitude is so important and it’s the only way to have a full life. Ironically, when things are bad, gratitude for what we already have tends to make things better. I’m manifesting a more authentic life, not worrying as much about what other people think of me.
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29 RocquelleNo Gravatar
June 16, 2011 at 4:08 pm

Anika, your post never cease to touch me and make me feel GOOD!! Somewhere in the midst of going to class and getting home, I totally missed your tweet about heartbreak, but i do know that sometimes we must let things and people go if we love them and outselves enough. I am extremely glad that you received an out pouring of twitter/blogger love in return!
Gratitude is so instrumental in my life; in being grateful, I acknowledge that I am blessed, love being the greatest blessing of all. If we all spend more time being grateful, we wouldn’t have time to acknowledge and focus on life’s positives!

Thank you for always be honest and vulnerable, it does not go unnoticed! I look forward to our Skype date, hopefully some time soon!
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June 16, 2011 at 7:30 pm

There’s those sweet teeth! :)

Darlin, I’m 24 and going gray rapidly. It’s making me quite self-conscious and I don’t really have the money to dye my hair frequently. I’m thinking about rockin’ it like Rogue in X-Men.

“I hug trees. I always keep it decent, though.” HA! Thank you for that.

I miss you, let’s e-mail more. XO
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31 Gracey at Fashion For GiantsNo Gravatar June 16, 2011 at 9:08 pm

Oh, Anika, you have no idea how timely this is for me. I’ve been struggling with manifesting the life that I want lately. Too dependent on others to provide me what I think I need instead of just creating what I need. I know what I need to do, but I still mope about and wish for things to be given to me.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I will take them to heart, get over my mopey slump and create the life I want.


P.S. I believe we would absolutely be great friends. Maybe a trip to Oslo is in order…
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32 Bella QNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 12:26 am

Twofold: your posts that are incredibly thoughtful, soulful and inspiring. And REAL. And the readership you attract- so many who have commented above (and soon below) are bloggers/readers that I know and think so highly of- a great bunch in wonderful people and to think we haven’t even met in real life yet have so much REAL impact in life. LOVE to you dear dear dear friend. Thank you for being you- Anika. You are very good at it. xo. Bella Q
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33 MarissaNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 1:56 am

I have such a crush on you right now it’s ridiculous. Why are you so wonderful? And that’s about all I have to say about that.


34 BibiNo Gravatar June 17, 2011 at 3:53 am

wow…very sweet. you reminded me of my best friend when you said that you don’t drink alcohol but people think you’re drunk at parties? thats my bestie! and i am surviving heartbreak right now too. your post made me want to curl up and cry my eyes out but at the same time made me smile.


35 Virag (Escapist mom)No Gravatar June 17, 2011 at 1:22 pm

Hello Anika,
This is my first time on your blog and you just shine through my screen, you seem to love life and yourself so much. I am definately going to be one of your followers!
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36 JamillahNo Gravatar
June 17, 2011 at 4:47 pm

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ANIKA! I am constantly leaving your blog with chills because of your words. They are so powerful, honest and kind and I am grateful to know you and to have you in my life. You are soulful, friend…very very soulful.

I hope whatever troubles you were having has passed, friend.

I love that people think you’re drunk, hahahahaha…that is because you are full of joy and fun. LOVE IT. And hug the tree but keep it always G-Rated, friend!!!


37 Fajr | Stylish ThoughtNo Gravatar
June 20, 2011 at 5:13 pm

So beautiful love! You must be trying to ruin my mascara one post at a time! Gratitude is a must in my life and it’s something I strive to exemplify in all I do. I am beyond blessed, from having great blogging buddies like you to new opportunities there’s nothing I could wish for.

Love you Anika and hopefully we’ll be able to dance wildly sober at a party together :)
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38 melina beeNo Gravatar June 21, 2011 at 6:17 am

I am having a hard time with self-love these days. I’m not sure I understand the difference between pride and self-love but maybe the concept of gratitude is what is missing from my understanding
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