Spreading the love: Vanessa of My Heart Blogged

by byanika on 03/07/2011 · 17 comments

in spreading the love,Vanessa of My Heart Blogged

Hi sweethearts! 

Last summer I started my Spreading the love-series where I feature lovely bloggers of all sizes. I started this series as a response to some of the drama going on in the blogosphere about what women are real and not. It isi mportant to me to actively do something, to be clear on where I stand in my life, on and off line. I welcome all people in my life and in my blog. All I ask that we be respectful of each other.  

I am a self worth activist, supportive of everyones right to define their own worth and use what ever labels on them selves they choose, be that fat, curvy or straight sized, homosexual, heterosexual or transgendered. It is not the label I am interested in, my focus is the person. I have chosen to ask everyone I feature the same questions, regardless of their amount of followers and size, something that has caused some controversy, but that is ok. I welcome dialouge, that is what expands our horizons, love and understanding of each other. You can read my manifesto on self worth here: “Who gets to label my self worth? I do!” 

Today it is my great pleasure to spread the love for the wonderful Vanessa of My Heart Blogged. This is one amazing and soulful woman I tell you, an absolute sweetheart and beauty. Enjoy!

Could you share with us your thoughts on fashion vs fatshion?

It took me a while to find the right words to say this, Fashion is for everyone period. It’s not one size, one race, or one economic status. I don’t believe the two should be separated.

On the other hand I personally have been on both sides of fashion. I was plus sized previously. I lost the weight for my health, and I was advised to by a doctor. It was a lot harder for me to find plus size clothing that was fashionable. I didn’t like the way it was cut, or fit. It was really frustrating. I think it needs to be acknowledged that while the average size (in the U.S.) is a 14 the industry isn’t catering to the plus sized fashionistas out there.

What is your philosophy with regard to fashion?

Wear what you love. I need to feel great in what I’m wearing, and a smile is by far the best accessory. I also don’t think you need to spend a lot of money to look fabulous.

I would love for you to share some of your fave looks.

My style is laid back. I’ve been trying to branch out and play with color more. I wear a little bit of everything though. I work a full time job, and I’m on my feet all day. So when I come home I like to dress comfortably but I still try to stay stylish.

How does blogging impact your life?

In more ways than I thought it would. I love having a creative outlet, and sitting down to write a post. I have met some amazing people, and they are so supportive. It’s crazy that you can get to know someone so well through the internet, and then read about their daily life. Also, I am a lot more confident in who I am. By putting myself out there for the world to see I feel empowered. Through writing I have gotten to know myself more. I didn’t expect for blogging to make me feel that way at all.

Do you have a message for all the fashion loving ladies/gentlemen out there, whatever their size?

Be yourself, and dress for yourself. Create a style that is all your own, and above everything love yourself. Confidence, and a smile is the most beautiful thing a person can wear. Start by loving yourself at every single size. You are beautiful the way you are, and you need to own it.

YES! Thank you so much darling Vanessa.

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1 BellaNo Gravatar
July 3, 2011 at 7:06 pm

“A smile is by far the best accessory.” I love this! Vanessa, I couldn’t agree with you more, you don’t need to spend a lot of money to look fabulous. It’s something like the old adage, “The clothes don’t make the monk.” I believe that if you have the right attitude and believe in yourself, you’re automatically transformed. Beauty is within everyone’s reach. I also like your concept of creating a style that is one’s own. Kudos to you for feeling this way! :)


byanika 2 byanikaNo Gravatar
July 4, 2011 at 11:32 am

Thank you my lovely friend. You know that you are lovely, right? You blow my mind, you are so amazing. I feel you all the way over here. Love, Anika


3 MarissaNo Gravatar
July 3, 2011 at 7:12 pm

Great interview! It really is crazy how the market doesn’t cater more to plus-sized women. I mean, purely from a financial perspective, doesn’t it just make sense?
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byanika 4 byanikaNo Gravatar
July 4, 2011 at 11:31 am

I couldn`t agree more. Can`t even count the times I was spoken to in a bad way in shop, that is having the shop girl helpfully point out that nothing in the shop would fit me, and thinking, what, you don`t want my money? HA! Much love to you my friend.


5 CharlieNo Gravatar
July 3, 2011 at 7:51 pm

lovely interview! I agree that fashion and style isn’t about money spent but about money well spent and that doesn’t mean a lot of money, not necessarily.
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6 anitaNo Gravatar July 3, 2011 at 9:03 pm

Oh what a great interview :) shes so great love her style and once again my love for red heads! love her hair! :)

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7 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar July 3, 2011 at 10:03 pm

Much love to Vanessa, an old friend.
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8 vanessaNo Gravatar
July 3, 2011 at 10:36 pm

Thank you so much for featuring me. I have always loved this series from you, and I’m so glad I got to be apart of it. Anika you’re the best!


byanika 9 byanikaNo Gravatar
July 4, 2011 at 11:29 am

I love you. It is my honor to feature YOU. <3


10 YvonnaLiviannaNo Gravatar
July 4, 2011 at 2:01 am

always love when you do these posts on other bloggers. I love anyone who likes a laid back style. Simple and to the point love it!

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byanika 11 byanikaNo Gravatar
July 4, 2011 at 11:29 am

Thank you so much darling. Would you be interested in letting me feature your wonderful self? Email me at anikack@gmail.com if you are, love. xo


12 AliNo Gravatar July 4, 2011 at 12:17 pm

I like these little interviews! I like Vanessa’s comments about getting to know people through their blogs, it’s one of the many things I love about the internet!
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July 4, 2011 at 5:36 pm

Lovely feature Anika. I agree with Vanessa, you most certainly do not have to spend alot of money to look fabulous. “Wear what you love…” period – so true!
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14 OfeliaNo Gravatar July 5, 2011 at 6:05 am

I agree with so many of her points of views: from the smile being your best accessory to the fact that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to look fabulous and to wear what you love.
I mean life is to short to wear un-loved clothing and the more you smile the more the people around you smile too and of course you don’t need a lot of money to be stylish you need to love yourself and it will show on your clothing.


15 CarmaNo Gravatar July 5, 2011 at 12:21 pm

Nice necklace. Do you have a closer shot of that??


16 Kirstin MarieNo Gravatar
July 5, 2011 at 1:47 pm

Yay! Vanessa is fabulous, and I was so excited to see her on your blog for your spreading the love series. I really loved learning about her. She’s just beautiful!
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17 JamillahNo Gravatar
July 5, 2011 at 5:19 pm

I looooooove Vanessa!!! She is always inspiring with her thrifty finds and she is so honest about her life, fashion choices and blogging. Wonderful feature! Wear what you love and the best accessory is a smile are great fashion principles to live by.
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