On choosing happiness in fashion and in life

by byanika on 14/09/2011 · 32 comments

in By Anika,dresses,leopard,self worth

Hi sweethearts!

Are you happy?

For a long time I thought life was about endurance, about suffering my cross gracefully. Enough of that.

Endurance, my friends, is not enough. No. I want to live happily. Why settle for anything less?

I am blessed with a sunny disposition that I have fine tuned and defiantly embraced in the face of my trials and tribulations. Life is hard. That doesn`t mean it can`t also be happy. In fact, the fact that my life is so demanding makes me even more determined to be as happy at any moment as I can be.

I am systematically creating happiness in my life.

I am always honest with my self. Brutally so. This is what allows me to recognize which path I am on, and where I need to go next.

When I go shopping I always ask my self: “Do I love it?” If it is mere infatuation, I give the dress a kiss and walk away.

In life I ask my self: “Will this choice bring me happiness?” And I don`t mean contentment or momentarily pleasure. No, I mean the real deal. The I-feel-at-peace-with-how-I-am-living-my-life-happiness. You know, the kind that suddenly makes you feel hopeful for your future and grateful that you are brave enough to live with self respect.

Do you know what makes me feel happy?

Dressing up every single day -for me. My bonkers dresses and pattern-mixing. Heels. Lippie. Swaying my tusch.

Listening to music all the time. Dancing on the bus stop, not giving a flying fig who`s looking. Feeling the rythm.

Travelling. Walking the streets of New York feeling giddy with joy.  Taking the tram to a unknown part of my city.

Spending time with loved ones. My family. My friends. You. Being touched by others.

Giving thanks. Getting the lesson. Forgiving my self. Moving on.

Following my intuition. Embracing. Letting go.

Laughing. From my belly. Enjoying my own jokes. Sharing a funny moment with a stranger.

Not being afraid. Telling my self I will survive. Knowing I will do more than survive.

Is my life always happy? No. Do I create happy moments every day? Yes.

The outfit: Dress, my design, made from dresses I have reworked about fourteen times. Jacket that I have reworked from a coat. Bag from Zara, that I added a mens neckless from H&M to (the original golden chain wasn`t bad ass enough for me). Heels from Din Sko that I added material from a curtain to for laces. Scarf, Bianco. Bling, Forever 21.

Tell me my friends, how are you going about creating happiness with your fashion and in your lives?

 

 I would love to connect with you!

For the full impact of your wonderful comments go to #byanikareaders where I quote and share your best ones!

 anikack@gmail.com   @AnikaByAnika   Facebook

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

{ 30 comments… read them below or add one }

1 RocquelleNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 14, 2011 at 10:51 pm

Anika, you’ve done it again! You’ve created a post that’s made me smile, drool (that outfit is gorgeous), think, and giggle, and I love you for it!!

Everyday I put on clothes, shoes, jewelry that speaks to me and speaks for me. My clothes say I am feminine, strong, lovely, smart, badass, and gentle. Even when I am having a bad day, I walk into my closet and can do nothing but smile at the bookcase of shoes (my latest delve into shoe storage/display), the flowing skirts, silk blouses, comfy t-shirts, sequins and sparkle, clothes and jewelry modern and vintage. For me fashion is not reason to be happiness, fashion is happiness!!!

Reply

2 Berlin Hair BabyNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 14, 2011 at 10:51 pm

beautiful nuggets of wisdom here! And I very much agree with you on ‘following intuition’. You have glorious hair, Annika – I would love to hear about your hair routine, favorites styles and challenges.
Love from Berlin, BHB
Berlin Hair Baby recently posted..New York Fashion Week: Carolina Herrera Inspired Runway HairMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

3 IvieNo Gravatar September 14, 2011 at 10:55 pm

Thank you for posting this and for emphasizing that material things do not automatically equate happiness. It’s easy to forget this in our fashion blogging world.

Reply

4 JasonNo Gravatar September 14, 2011 at 11:13 pm

Awww cute!! Thx for following me on twitter^^ im ur new follower here btw xoxoxoxo

Jasonitos.com

Reply

5 RoseNo Gravatar September 14, 2011 at 11:45 pm

You are a true individual who knows herself

Reply

6 KirstinNo Gravatar September 15, 2011 at 12:20 am

“Will this choice bring me happiness?” I loveeee that! I really need to bring that into my life and start using it! Right now I’m struggling to be happy since the bf left me and I think I feel that my life has to be super amazing right away. In time I will rebuild my life and having that question in mind is perfect to keep me grounded!

Reply

7 Patti @ NotDeadYet StyleNo Gravatar September 15, 2011 at 1:41 am

Beautiful! You, and this post. Create happy moments every day, and keep dancing at the bus stop : >
Patti @ NotDeadYet Style recently posted..My Rules For Wearing Vintage, When You’re a Bit VintageMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

8 Claire LNo Gravatar September 15, 2011 at 3:37 am

The second pic is HAWT…. Smokin’ hot. Girl, happy is equaling some major sexy too.

Wearing skirts makes me happy.

Watching my kiddo and her self assured little self up on the stage makes me happy.

Having a hubby of 14 years ( plus 8 before we got marred) giving me the up and down look makes me happy.

Drinks with good friends and laughing so loud at least one of us snorts makes me happy.

Cooking a meal that makes me Goddess for the night makes me happy.

A good hair cut, fresh hair color, glittery eyeliner, my dog snuggling up in my lap, my cat giving me cattitude, my morning mochas, candied walnuts in my salads, my kid doing this funny slow mo thing for my benefit, my hubs being the secretly funny funny guy that he is……
Actually, a good deep breath of air makes me happy….because life is too short to put up with anything else.
Claire L recently posted..Me, My Clothes, and IMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

9 UN-stitchedNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 15, 2011 at 5:09 am

You are such a blessing, Anika! I love this post and it reverberates to the core. Thank you for being you!!! xoxo Christine
UN-stitched recently posted..What to LoveMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

10 WendyBNo Gravatar September 15, 2011 at 6:04 am

You have a good attitude!
WendyB recently posted..Minx Manicure and a Sneak PeekMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

11 YleniaNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 15, 2011 at 8:51 am

hang on a sec. SO, you are America, from NY and live in Oslo, right? Didi you move for work? love?
from your latest posts I can see you really love animal prints, whereas I am totally unable to wear them ;-)

let me tell you that your posts always make me think, actually in English is more correct to say “are food for thoughts”, right?

Love, Ylenia
from longuette

Reply

12 THE-LOUDMOUTHNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 15, 2011 at 10:56 am

You are my favorite. I want to pull all of your posts together into a book and re-read it forever.
THE-LOUDMOUTH recently posted..Sponsor in October!My ComLuv Profile

Reply

13 Bella QNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 5:09 pm

I’m with Steph on that one. I say a book is in the making, Anika.
Bella Q recently posted..The IFB Conference, Milk StudiosMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

14 LAUREN NICOLENo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 15, 2011 at 3:06 pm

You always bring me back to thinking about how I feel about myself, Anika. I hope you had a marvelous time with Vahni in NYC. What a joy it was to see all my favorite bloggers meet and take photos with each other. Promise I’ll be there next time! xoxo
LAUREN NICOLE recently posted..Five thingsMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

15 Susan TinerNo Gravatar September 15, 2011 at 10:52 pm

You look so lovely, as usual. Tell us about the conference!
Susan Tiner recently posted..Fashion Show!My ComLuv Profile

Reply

16 GRIT & GLAMOURNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 1:36 am

There you are, across the world again. Kinda makes me sad, but still happy to see your face…and that fab clutch, darling!

Reminiscing about our fun in NY…miss you.

xoxo
GRIT & GLAMOUR recently posted..Fashion’s Night Out at Gucci, 5th AvenueMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

17 JenmarieNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 3:24 am

Gotta say, this is one of my favorite outfits you’ve put together! Loving the jacket and clutch!

Reply

18 Sally ThompsonNo Gravatar September 16, 2011 at 1:03 pm

I am a really huge fan of yours.. I love your style.. You are lovely in your outfit always.. I love your bag! so cute..
Sally Thompson recently posted..express oil change couponsMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

19 Fajr | Stylish ThoughtNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 3:21 pm

I miss you :( ! We need a Skype session pronto! P.S. I’m happier now that you’re in my life.
Fajr | Stylish Thought recently posted..No Yes Woman: How to Say No (and mean it)My ComLuv Profile

Reply

20 JamillahNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Oh friend, I miss you like crazy!!! :( But reading this post really is like strolling next to you. I hope that you find a million happy moments today and everyday. Keep making those choices that are for you, especially when people are projecting negativity. I LOOOOVE YOU.
Jamillah recently posted..What I Wore-Outfit Flurry!My ComLuv Profile

Reply

21 Bella QNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 16, 2011 at 5:11 pm

You’ve done it again. This post gives me goosebumps and it couldn’t be more timely of a read. I love how you share your strength and your warmth with your words. Incredible quote: will this choice bring me happiness? I am applying this question to my day today. Lovely as always, dear friend. xo. Bella Q
Bella Q recently posted..The IFB Conference, Milk StudiosMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

22 SACRAMENTONo Gravatar September 16, 2011 at 8:39 pm

Looking at you makes me happy, and that yellow clutch too.
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
SACRAMENTO recently posted..Inspiration in Blue & Link á la Mode RoundupMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

23 AquíNo Gravatar September 16, 2011 at 9:13 pm

I love your bright snake skin bag and I hear you were in NY staying with the lovely Jamillah!!! So jealous!!! Hope your girls had a blast!
Aquí recently posted..trenchtown rockMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

24 FASHION TALESNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 17, 2011 at 1:54 am

I agree and am brutally honest with myself and love that quality in my friends as well.
Have a wonderful weekend doll. -xx
FASHION TALES recently posted..Godrun Sjödén, a Shopping List, & Cheers to FallMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

25 KimberleeNo Gravatar
Twitter:
September 17, 2011 at 7:24 pm

I definitely agree that being happy is a choice! You may need to remind yourself but it’s worth it. I’m really bad when I shop and just picking up things on a whim and not rationalizing the purchase – need to work on that :/
Kimberlee recently posted..N:F:P Studio Fashion Show And I Got A Portrait!My ComLuv Profile

Reply

26 NekiahNo Gravatar September 18, 2011 at 3:43 am

I love your outfit girl! Super cute dress and I love what you did with coat turned jacket! As far as happiness goes….it should be a state of mind not based on circumstances because they are ever changing. The joy of the Lord is my strength! Kiah
Nekiah recently posted..FLOOR SWEEPING PLEATSMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

27 SchnelleNo Gravatar September 19, 2011 at 9:05 pm

Beautiful Post, thanks so much!
Schnelle recently posted..Sometimes when you feel you can’t…just don’t!My ComLuv Profile

Reply

28 CelestineNo Gravatar October 6, 2011 at 7:16 am

You are lovely in your outfit always.. I love your bag! so cute..I love what you did with coat turned jacket!Keep making those choices that are for you,
Celestine recently posted..glass blowing historyMy ComLuv Profile

Reply

29 goldNo Gravatar October 12, 2011 at 11:03 am

I want to share something.. I have a friend, and everytime she feels so down, she pulls out all her watches and shades out of her cabinet and just by watching all of her collections of accessories she felt so happy and relieve. My point is, you can feel true happiness too just in fashion.
gold recently posted..Will Your Arowana Or Dragonfish Bring Luck To You?My ComLuv Profile

Reply

byanika 30 byanikaNo Gravatar
Twitter:
October 16, 2011 at 10:58 pm

I agree, just looking at my dresses can help me feel happier. There are many ways to feel happy!

Reply

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv Enabled

{ 2 trackbacks }

Previous post:

Next post: